After several years of counseling the separated, I am more convinced than ever that Britton Wood is right. But most of those who are dating will never be reconciled. Dating is a prelude to remarriage, not therapy for reconciliation. You are extremely vulnerable during these days of separation.
It's an awful, soul-crushing rollercoaster and every time someone sarcastically remarks how easy it is for people to get divorced or how so-and-so "just left their marriage," my head feels like it's about to explode. However when I would reveal to someone in whom I was potentially interested that I was separated, they invariably would shy away.
Scenario Three If you are engaged in a hotly contested negotiation or litigation with your separated spouse over child custody, child support, alimony, or property division, and you have only been separated say, less than six months, then it is not in your best interests to begin a dating relationship with another person.
An outside dating relationship can affect the emotional dynamics of those negotiations and frequently makes the process significantly more difficult.
“If you are not free to marry, you are not free to date!
When you start dating someone else while you are separated, you make reconciliation more difficult. Unfortunately there are those of the opposite sex who would like to take advantage of your vulnerability.